Idea gotten from The Hostess
I googled Soul Mate and found:
Soul mates are protected by the omnipresence of God at any given time and all disputes that ever might arise are dissolved and cleared by God directly, instantly and eternally. reunited soul mates - even in their physical body - are permanently linked with their partner and God in a triangular way and have their eternal roots in God.
All divine details will automatically be revealed to both at the given time - when both are ready and spiritually mature to love all and behave in a divine way here on earth as a result of mutual spiritual progress.
Since last week I have been trying to blog about my belief that God has us covered. That situations have been worked out in ways that show God’s involvement and care.
I am not implying that a dispute in a relationship implies God isn’t present or that the relationship isn’t blessed. I have asked God to be in control of our relationship, I have prayed that he keep us in his will. In pr-marital we also have prayed that God show us.
This draft post was titled “My Heart Was Prepared”
I have two very bad child cousins. Their parents, grandparents, great grandmother, aunts and uncles sit and watch them destroy. It drives my mother crazy and as a result she will rarely have anything in her home. By the time she has to tell them to stop doing whatever it is, she is hot.
My mother told me I should not welcome kids to our wedding and reception because they would disrupt and be bored. I believe she was thinking about those two cousins. I didn’t care either way, so I was planning an adult only affair. One of my cousins (the mother of the bad child) asked if kids were welcome and I said no. I heard the disappointment in her voice as she told me she would see what she could figure out for that holiday weekend. This cousin was my child hood roll dog.
Last month one of my sorority sisters started a discussion on kids at weddings. She was trying to decide whether to invite them. It seemed like the majority including me was against inviting them, the minority being mostly the mothers.
One of my sorority sisters wrote this:
A wedding is an honored family tradition and if the parents raised their children correctly they would be welcome.
But how can we raise our culture to have respect for this tradition if children don’t witness the solemn pageantry that is so symbolic and meaningful? With so many “shack-ups” being the norm, the wedding that YOU are planning may be the last one the kid has an opportunity to witness. Perhaps designated hostesses could be charged with the responsibility of keeping the durn kids from walking on the chairs or flopping into the cake. Children are bombarded with all sorts of antifamily and anti religious messages these day. Please don’t rob them of the opportunity to witness a powerful visual and religious image.
Nevertheless, I think whether or not children are invited to a wedding, should be based solely on the bride and groom’s preference
Her words had an effect on me. I had been thinking about my wedding. I was focused on not wanting our cake knocked over (still don’t) and having no one cry or be a kid during our vows. I had not considered all the weddings I had gone to as a child. All my older cousins that had a wedding, I was there. My image of weddings and marriage was shaped when I was a child.
I remember figthing, running, jumping at every wedding reception I went to as a kid. I was happy to see my other kid cousins. I was happy to mingle with my older relatives. During the ceremony I was always well behaved, I understood what was going on. Even at 5 I knew the day was special and meant something.
A week or so after that email discussion my guy told me why it was important to him that his kid cousins come to our wedding, he reiterated what my soror had said (he didn’ know about the discussion). When he said it my heart had already been prepared to recieve. I happily said okay and silently reflected that God had caused my guy to wait until my heart had changed.
Had he told me what he wanted before that I would have said yes but I would have felt like I was compromising. I tell you when Noel Jones said a relationship is about compatibility not compromise, it was like a strong wind blew over me. I realized we agree in our relationship, not compromise.